Made You Think 101: Bound To Run Out
I want to share something with you all and please can you help me out with this?.
Recently, a friend came to me and asked me for my opinion on something that was proving to be very frustrating for her. The situation goes like this…
There is this girl, whom she very much likes. The girl is beautiful in her eyes, tall, dark, soft skin, nose piercing and knows how to carry herself well. Every time they see each other, they stare at each other, eyes locked, waiting on what seems like one another to make the first move.
My friend, being who she is, she thought nothing of it at first. Until, she noticed a routine. Every Thursday, the girl would come into her work place and walk past her at least twice, still staring with a half smile on her face.
After thinking that maybe she could be interested in her, my friend told herself that she would say something to her the next time she saw her. Months went by and still nothing was said. The routine died out and my friend eagerly waited and hoped she would see her again, still with the hopes of saying something to her every time. And every time she saw her, it was like time sped up and every thing happened so fast that she hardly had time to process it.
Her chances are bound to run out at some point…
The question is, when?
Each and every time a chance passes her by, she tells herself that the next one won't but the same thing keeps reoccurring. It is even getting to the stage that she feels that maybe she has blown it and the girl is no longer interested.
This was until yesterday, when she saw her for the first time in a long while. With the same pattern occurring, the girl walked passed her twice. She even turned and looked back, but not a sound escaped my friend's lips.
She is beating herself up for letting yet another chance slip through her fingers. It's situations like these that you realise how hard a 'hello' can be when it is for the first time with who you hope to be the right person.
So, how many chances does it take just to get it right and if/when she does get it right, how many more chances after that does it take to stay getting it right?
If this was you, what would you do? How would you handle such situation? Would you give up?
Maybe she doesn't deserve any more chances, as she has already had one too many. Maybe it is not meant to be or maybe the time isn't right?
But all these 'maybes' could be answered if she took one of the chances when they presented themselves. I understand that nerves can get the better of us when it comes on to someone that we like and that the first move is always the hardest thing to do, but being stuck with 'maybes' is even worse.
Do you think that she should just suck it up and be the bigger person or should she wait and hope things fall into place?
All I know is that she is very frustrated with herself for not grabbing the chance in the first place, but to be given ample amount of chances and still not utilising them, that has got to be very agonising.
Personally, I think she should go for it, but that is easier said than done. Do you have any suggestions for her? I'd would love to gather all your thoughts and share them with her, in hopes that, that will help her to analyse what she should do about this persisting situation?
Note: I'd really love all your help and advise and I am sure my friend would appreciate them too. Much love. Tanny xx